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Stay-at-Home Wife….No Kids Yet (Part 1)

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Celebrating Two Years as a Full-Time Homemaker

Hello Lovelies,

I am unsure how to start this, but I wanted to say that my second anniversary of being a full-time homemaker just passed in December, and I thought I should make a reflection post to commemorate it.

Here is a Journal entry I wrote after my first year; this may help progress the conversation.

A digital journal entry dated March 2, 2024, written in an elegant, decorative font. The background features soft pastel colors with illustrations of butterflies and flowers. The writer reflects on their transition into being a housewife, expressing gratitude for their husband and faith in God. They discuss their past work-related stress, the decision to leave the workforce, and their journey of self-education and personal growth. The entry conveys a sense of peace, reflection, and inspiration, ending with a prayer for wisdom and discernment.

🏡 Mental Health Check-In

How do I feel?

 At peace. Truly. While I’m still fine-tuning my daily schedule, I wouldn’t trade this season for anything. I love prioritizing my home—beautifying it, preparing fresh meals, baking homemade bread, and tending to my husband on a flexible timeline. All while pursuing passion projects without feeling burnt out.

A few years ago, I never envisioned myself here. So, let me answer the question I once had for myself and for those curious enough to read.

✨ Why a Housewife and How?

As a Christian, sometimes you expect to hear an audible voice from God when you make a life-changing decision or when someone asks about how you made the decision, but I did not. Everyone hears from God differently, but this fact did not make this season in my life any less supernatural. What made it supernatural was that I had no visible exposure to this role or lifestyle,  nor had I had any thoughts or opinions about it before becoming one. Honestly, my exposure was my grandmother sharing conversationally about her being a stay-at-home wife in the first half of her marriage. Still, when I (her first-born grandchild) came along, she was involved in various creative projects and became a full-fledged career woman. So, I never got to experience seeing her as a full-time homemaker. And even then, I didn’t have much opinion about the matter. 

Two Things That Led Me Here:

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  1. Work Stress Wasn’t Worth The Pay Granted; this was a job I had prayed for because I was so desperate. My desperation led me not to ask pertinent interview questions that would give me a full scope of my daily tasks and travel. Desperation also led me to accept the job without my husband’s wisdom in asking those questions. He reminded me of this later. And this wasn’t even my worst position. It was a learning curve for me, and I was wearing a hard hat weekly(so the opposite of my girly self). I felt like I was in the Twilight Zone. I had to leave before management knew I was totally lost. LOL. 😂
  2. Lack of Purpose. I did not feel like I was saving the world. That’s the problem with having a job and maybe not a career. It just didn’t seem purposeful to me. I felt like I was rotting away in my cubicle. 

🍂 Thanksgiving Breakdown — The Last Straw

My husband saw my distress when I broke down before hosting Thanksgiving dinner. I didn’t have the day before off to prepare. After deep discussions and strategizing, we asked, Why not?

This led me to realize #3: I had tried multiple work environments and hated them all.

📌 Work/Education Experience Rundown:

  • I have a premed degree in human biology.
  • I worked at a hospital clinic alongside medical professionals. It was toxic.
  • I worked as a behavioral health technician.
  • I worked in a biopharmaceutical lab.
  • I worked a super corporate job.

God led me to leave the workforce without revealing the whole plan. But clarity came after I stepped away.

🌸 The Big Realization

It seems to me—and to some others (as I don’t think I’m alone in this)—that women are not built to handle the same levels of stress as men, particularly the stress that comes with the corporate workforce. Now, please understand me: women are capable of doing most of what men do work-wise, but in my opinion, we tend to get slightly more flustered. There are even studies showing that working women experience increased cortisol levels due to stress, which can sometimes lead to autoimmune issues.

When I looked back at the Bible, specifically Titus 2, I saw that God instructs older women to teach younger women to be keepers of the home. This led me to tap into what I believe to be my primary role as a married woman—keeping my home.

Titus 2:3-5 3
Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, 4 so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.

I came to this realization by observing my own joy, peace, and stress levels after leaving the workforce. Over time, I felt lighter, happier, and more at peace. God also led me to discover content creators who were living this lifestyle, ironically, after I made my decision. As a Black woman, exposure to homemaking as a legitimate lifestyle was nearly nonexistent. But my husband reassured me that we could make it work, and financially, it made more sense than him having to hear about my stress 😆

Here are some homemaker content creators I love:

📍 Habits of a Homemaker


📍 Bindi Marc

📍 Home With Kelli


📍 Off the Beaten Path

📅 What Do I Do All Day?

(I may do another post on this)

✔️ I soak in peace. ✔️ I stay grateful to God and my husband. ✔️ I no longer feel the need to prove my productivity to my husband. ✔️ I embrace my role without guilt.

I wake up each day with a spirit of gratitude. When I started this journey, I felt like I needed to report back to my husband with a list of everything I had done during the day, but he reassured me that he didn’t need an itinerary. I guess I felt guilty being home while he was out working. I hadn’t entirely accepted my role yet, so there were some insecurities—insecurities I no longer struggle with.

As I mentioned earlier, I am a homemaker, which means my days are filled with home-based activities and ensuring that our household runs smoothly. Ensuring we have nutritious meals, a tidy home, and an overall sense of order every day is just the beginning! Surprisingly, I seem to stay even more busy and productive than I did while working.

I no longer feel bashful saying this, but I also have the privilege of resting intuitively throughout the day—something I’ve come to appreciate. And that is a privilege I am not guilty about, nor will I apologize for.

💬 How Do I Identify Myself?

How do I refer to myself when people ask? 

This took some time because even something as simple as going to the nail salon on a random Tuesday morning would lead to questions. People would ask, “Oh, did you take off work to come?” and I’d freeze like a deer in the headlights. I always want to respond with emotional intelligence and not make people uncomfortable, but I take a moment to gather myself. Ultimately, I like to identify with my role as it is shown to me biblically—I am a homemaker, a keeper of my home. If someone isn’t familiar with that term, I clarify by saying I’m a stay-at-home wife.

Some family members have given me blank stares when I told them, but I just shrug it off. Others have asked—or at least wondered—if my husband and I are trying for a baby. I’ve noticed that either they don’t know how to react or they’ve never considered this lifestyle before, leaving them unsure of what to say.

Surprisingly, I haven’t received any negative responses at all. I get the sense that most women don’t actually want to clock in at work. I could be wrong, but that’s just how it seems. There also seems to be more acceptance of this reality compared to five or ten years ago. I’ve noticed on social media that more women are tired of pretending they want to be major career women.

Because of the negative connotations surrounding housewives, I try to frame my role as actively taking care of my home—not as me sitting around eating bonbons all day!

The Working Woman: A New Concept?

Some people may be confused by the idea of a woman staying home unless she has children. But one realization I had after stepping into this role is that married women working full-time is actually a relatively new concept—only about 75 years old. Before the 1950s and World War II, women—especially married women—were not typically expected to work for income. Instead, they remained in their parents’ household helping out until marriage, at which point they transitioned into their husband’s household, where their primary role was to care for the home.

As we understand from a biblical perspective, we are living in the last days. As society progresses, we seem to move further away from God’s original plan. History has shown that for centuries, women weren’t expected to work in the way they are now. So should we as believers reevaluate?

Of course, this conversation is more nuanced than it may seem. There are many factors to consider, as well as important questions to ask.

🔹 Key Questions:

  • Does the modern woman want more and need more, leading to our reliance on a second income?
  • Or is inflation simply making it harder for families to survive on one income?
  • Were women in the past more resourceful, spending according to their husband’s income and saving more money?
  • Are young men being educated on being primary providers and increasing their earning capacity, so as to not have modern ideologies and expectations for their spouses to work?
  • Do we need to work, or do we want to work to afford more material things?

And finally,

  • Are we willing and able to live on one income as married women—or as women preparing for marriage—in exchange for greater peace, less stress, and more autonomy at home?

🎓 Education & Homemaking

Education? What’s the point of getting a degree or going to trade school if you’re going to be a homemaker? 

Personally, I had no clue I was going to be a homemaker, as I mentioned before. So, should a single woman wait to be married if she already has the desire to be a homemaker? Should she spend years waiting for a husband before making a living? Let’s not be willfully obtuse—of course not! The ability to support yourself is essential in today’s world. And more importantly, we should seek to use the gifts the Lord has given us!

As a married woman, I believe that when you’re single, you should maximize—or seek to maximize—your singleness by investing in yourself. This could be through formal education, learning a trade, or simply keeping yourself busy in productive ways.

In the past, this was never really a question. Even in Victorian times, education for women wasn’t necessarily seen as a direct path to employment. Instead, it was often considered a luxury, but one that made a woman more desirable to the type of man she was interested in. In that sense, education was for personal enrichment rather than just for securing a job. Many cultures still hold this perspective today, particularly Middle Eastern cultures, from what I’ve observed.

For example, if you’re drawn to businessmen, then educating yourself in business makes sense. It may be something you’re already interested in, but it also aligns with the kind of man you envision yourself with, so you’re the reciprocal to him. In the long run, this benefits you by giving you exposure to and comfort in those spaces, making it easier to navigate that world.

✨ The Blessings of Homemaking

The benefits of being a homemaker and what it has allowed me to do? 

It has allowed me to help my husband and be of greater service to him, both professionally and personally.

I have the freedom to pursue passions that align more with my God-given purpose.

It has provided me with the space to prioritize my mental health and take a much-needed break from the workforce.

It has also allowed me to prioritize my home in a way that I couldn’t before. When I was working, long days often left me too drained to fully enjoy homemaking. Now, I cook and bake for fun, and I genuinely enjoy providing my husband and myself with nutritious, well-thought-out meals—without rushing or dreading the process. I’m able to be more consistent, so we have more home-cooked meals than anything. Of course, we still order food whenever we want, but you get where I’m coming from.

I am also able to embrace slow living and a quiet life, free from the hustle and bustle of our fast-paced society. Of course, factors like geography and whether or not you have children play a role in this as well. But ultimately, this lifestyle allows me to feel more in tune with my most feminine self and to be in a better mood overall.

❤️ Advice for Married Women Wanting to be Homemakers

🔹 Pray about it. 🔹 Talk with your husband. 🔹 Seek God for wisdom, strategy, and humility in this transition.

I understand that not everyone will desire what I desire, or perhaps they are not in this season yet. Maybe you’re reading this and want to become a full-time homemaker, but you know there are sacrifices to be made.

Be prayerful in all things, including this. Have an open conversation with your husband about your desires. Pray that the Lord softens his heart toward your feelings, that He provides you with a clear blueprint on how to get started, and that if and when you enter this season, your heart remains in a place of humility and gratitude.

💡 Advice for Single Women

Are you a single woman desiring marriage and reading this? I believe God works with each of us differently. I never envisioned this lifestyle for myself, yet God, in His omniscience, blessed me with it. He knew that eventually, I would come to this point, so He placed it in my husband’s heart to be receptive to this path and more than happy to support me. I didn’t have the exposure to this lifestyle beforehand, but you can use my journey as the exposure you need when approaching intentional dating and starting these conversations.

As I mentioned before, sometimes God gives without us even asking because He knows our hearts and our futures. For others, He provides people who serve as the exposure needed to spark conversations that help them clarify their desires and pursue them with intention.

So, if you are a single woman desiring to be a homemaker in the future, approach your interactions with potential suitors with clarity and honesty. Express your true desires or, at the very least, ask them whether this is something they are open to. This will allow you to vet them based on what you truly want for your life.

📖 Scripture & Future Plans

Although my mindset has shifted, and as a married woman, I want my home to be my priority, being a homemaker does not take away from my desire to use my God-given gifts or to be enterprising—just like the Proverbs 31 woman. She was a woman of wisdom who used her intellect to purchase land and plant a vineyard, bringing economic gain to her household alongside her husband.

Proverbs 31:16
She considers a field and buys it;
From her earnings she plants a vineyard.

I can transparently say that I am in a season where God has finally revealed my gifts and what I am meant to be doing. I am moving forward patiently, embracing new ventures without sacrificing my peace. At this point in my life, I have no desire to return to corporate work—at least not full-time.

Be on the lookout for my next blog post (Part 2), where I share my husband’s and my experience of being nearly five years into marriage and still child-free. I’ll discuss the reasons behind our decision and common misconceptions and judgments about family planning—especially as a full-time homemaker.

💌 Want to Learn More?

If you have any questions or topics you’d like me to discuss further regarding homemaking, feel free to comment or email me (virtuousrenaissancewomanandco@gmail.com) if you’d prefer to remain anonymous. I’d be happy to answer any questions you have—I’m only two years in and still have so much to learn. God bless! 💖

How You Can Develop Emotional Control

Hello Lovely, 

Have you ever found yourself in a season of being frequently triggered by everyone and everything? For example, it could be negative comments made by family members, friends, or colleagues, all within a short time. Or multiple interactions that have left you feeling uncomfortable. And even similar interactions with people have left you feeling drained energetically, working on the last nerve you had for the day. What about scrolling down your social media timeline only to feel anxious, unaccomplished, and purposeless? All of these examples could have one’s emotions spiraling. 

BEING UNBOTHERED TO COMBAT OUR TRIGGERS

Typically when we find ourselves triggered, the root of it boils down to five primary emotions; fear, offense, envy, sadness, and irritation. A trigger is a stressor, which could lead to an adverse emotional reaction. I am sure you have heard the popular term being unbothered. A state of being in which a person is unaffected by things that would bother most. Wouldn’t it be lovely to go through life peacefully, knowing that no one could affect you emotionally? Is being unbothered even realistic? Is it biblical?

When we encounter terms in our world that become normalized, it is good to know God’s views on them, so we search for the answers in the Bible. The Bible says wisdom comes from the word of the Lord (Jeremiah 8:9) and that one should pursue it. Hearing the word of the Lord is the first step in acquiring wisdom; the second is aligning your heart to receive/understand this wisdom (Proverbs 2:1). To receive something in your heart means that you accept it as truth and you apply it to your life. True wisdom is APPLIED to one’s life. Let us be doers of the word and not just hearers only, as it says in (Jeremiah 1:22-25). Let us not just memorize scriptures but inscribe them on our hearts to use in times of need. 

Emotional Control: The Biblical Answer

Ephesians 4:26 says Be angry but do not sin. Therein lies our biblical answer. God recognizes that we as humans have emotions and that they come naturally. He is not telling us to ignore these feelings; instead, he gives us something more powerful. Be angry, but DON’T SIN, and don’t let the sun go down on your wrath. There are two aspects of this command. First, allow yourself to feel how you feel, whether anger, hurt, irritation, etc., but do NOT sit in that emotion for too long. Sitting in one’s feelings for too long can cause an onslaught of things, including hardening of the heart, bitterness, resentment, rage, anxiety, depression, gossip, ruminating thoughts, and more. He is leading us on a path of EMOTIONAL CONTROL.

Adults must understand that WE are responsible for our triggers, whatever the root cause. Therefore, we should not walk into life thinking that others will change to accommodate us, but instead, learn to have emotional control. The only thing we can do is change our reactions/responses to various triggers. As a Christian, having emotional control is significant because we are to be a good testimony to unbelievers. We can’t do that by being emotionally unstable or numbing ourselves into a faux state of unbothered ness. We are to be examples to others through good conduct, which comes from true wisdom according to the word (James 3:13).

EMOTIONAL CONTROL CONCERNING FEMININITY

Now, how does developing emotional control apply to femininity? As women, we are wired emotionally. It is biological. What does this mean? It means that God created us with a complex reproductive system that goes through a monthly cycle that affects our hormone levels. I am sure you are familiar with the two reproductive hormones estrogen and progesterone, but you may need to become more familiar with their functions or the effect it has on the body. Women produce higher amounts of these two in comparison to men. Because men do not go through a monthly cycle, their hormone levels are stabilized, which means fewer, if any, mood swings. Women go through periods of the month where these specific hormones dip high and low. Estrogen increases the brain’s serotonin levels (a hormone associated with happiness), and progesterone has the opposite depressing effect. Below is an Infograph which shows visually the stability in the rise and fall of male hormones daily. In comparison to the drastic shifts in hormone levels for women on a monthly basis.

Infographic displaying a comparison of male and female monthly hormone levels. The graph shows a significant difference in hormone levels between genders, highlighting the challenges women may face in managing their emotions due to hormonal fluctuations throughout the month

With all this being said, as women, we must take our thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). Whatever you are thinking, causing you to feel what you feel, align it with God. The Bible says, “the wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands, the foolish one tears hers down.” That’s how vital a role we play in our homes and society is. Our biology is not to be used as an excuse for poor control. So how do we use the Word of God to combat these emotions bound to rise within us? 

Let’s study what the word has to say. 

Emotional Control Tips: Bringing The Emotions Into Subjection

OFFENSE

When it comes to offense, we have all been there. Someone says something to offend us, and at first, shock turns into dismay, then rage or irritation, ending in bitterness. Offense can make us feel on guard like we have to fight back with our words, especially if there’s a clue that the person has offended us intentionally. It is essential to ask God to give us emotional intelligence. This emotional intelligence will help us understand that what people say often are projections of their insecurities and look at it from another perspective. On the other hand, we may get offended by hearing the truth; however gently it may have been delivered. The prior is something we must assess and reconcile within ourselves. 

Have Emotional Intelligence

In dealing with people’s projections and insecurities, we must remember to harvest the fruit of the spirit; patience (Galatians 5:23).

The Lord’s bond-servant must not be quarrelsome, but be kind to all, skillful in teaching, patient when wronged (2 Timothy 2:24).

1 Peter 3:9. ‘Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult.

He does not want us to insult a person to get even. This is a part of having emotional intelligence. 

When people say offensive things out of hate and to embarrass, we also have to get comfortable with God being our defender and protector. The sooner we understand this, the less emotional we get when we feel offended because we know he is a just God, and if we need vindication, he will vindicate us. 

Psalm 23:5 

He prepares a table for us in the presence of our enemies. 

Romans 12:19 

Vengeance is mine, says the Lord.

Matthew 5:44

But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,

Though these scriptures may seem extreme because they give us a picture of warfare, battlegrounds, and enemies, we must understand that offense can cause us to view people as our enemies; if indeed they are, then have no worries because God has your back. 

Offense can sometimes come from people telling us a truth we cannot handle, magnifying our insecurities. Meditate on this verse as a prayer so that God can reveal to you whether or not there are some things you can improve. 

Psalm 139:23-24

23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:

24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.

But how do we respond to those we are offended by, whether the offense was intentional or unintentional?

Say less

James 1:19 

The Bible tells us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to wrath. Put this into practice whenever you feel like lashing out against someone who has offended you. Do not allow others to control your emotions and get you riled up. 

Proverbs 18:2

Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent. 

Bring it up

The Lord does not want us to cower in fear; on the contrary, he wants us to develop the communication skills necessary to address our issues with others in a non-confrontational and personal way.

Matthew 18:25

“Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 

Delivery

So how do you tell the person the fault you have with them? Below is a scripture that gives us insight into our delivery when addressing others. 

Your speech must always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so you know how to respond to each person. (Colossians 4:6)

Forgive

When we have patience with people plus emotional intelligence, it allows us to understand they may have their own issues and that even if they intentionally try to offend us, God has our back; the last thing to do is forgive and move on.

Colossians 3:12–13

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

Ephesians 4:2-3

 Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the spirit, binding yourselves together with peace.

ENVY/COMPARISON

In the age of social media, there is a constant update on the lives of others. Social media can be a source of inspiration and encouragement but also the source of many evils, including comparison, which can lead to anxiety, jealousy, and envy. If you are in a constant cycle of envy and comparison due to social media, you may need to detox from it fast or eliminate your accounts. 

Matthew 5:30 

And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is. Better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

We know covetousness is a sin (Exodus 20:17), and envy is the root. Therefore, do not be attached to anything causing you to sin. Everyone has different weaknesses, and if social media fuels competition in you or envy, it may be best to limit or eliminate your usage. 

Envy and comparison can persist outside of social media. We must remember that we should be grateful for God’s blessings. There’s always someone with less. 

Meditate on these scriptures:

1 Timothy 6:6

Godliness with contentment produces great gain

The key to keeping comparison and envy in check is to be grateful and content with what God has blessed you and celebrate with others. Another God-given key is to busy yourself with your affairs; that way, you can be proud of your accomplishments. In doing so, you know you have worked hard towards fulfilling your purpose. 

Galatians 6:4

But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor.

This combination of wisdom given to us will leave no room for envy.

Remember to be GRATEFUL FOR YOUR BLESSINGS, BE CONTENT, BUSY YOURSELF, and CELEBRATE OTHERS

FEAR

Fear is a common emotion that can lead to many complex ones like worry, ruminating thoughts, anxiety, and health issues. However, just because it is common does not mean it is from God.

2 Timothy 1:7

For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love, and of a sound mind.

Remember to take your fearful thoughts captive in obedience to Christ. Developing emotional control is imperative because our thoughts result from our emotions. And if the Bible tells us that he has not put in us a spirit of fear, you must rebuke it! The spirit of power, love, and a sound mind should be what combats this spirit of fear. Try to understand and identify your concerns and bring them to the Lord in prayer.

Philippians 4:6-7

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Whenever you get that tinge of fear, the first point of action should be to bow your head in prayer.

HURT/GRIEF

Jesus wept (John 11:35), which is said to be the shortest verse in the Bible. At this moment, he was grieving the death of his friend Lazarus just before he resurrected him. So, we see that even Jesus felt pain, grief, and hurt while on this earth. 

There are many scriptures where God reassures us of his proximity to us in times of pain. Whether that be heartbreak, the death of a loved one, or feelings of loneliness, his main encouragement is that he understands and is near us, even when we feel alone. Understanding the gospel and how these feelings of pain are temporary compared to the eternal life to be lived by God’s believers and followers should be something to look forward to; the light at the end of a tunnel in moments and seasons of hurt. 

Please meditate on these words:

Psalm 34:18

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit

Psalms 73:26

My flesh and my heart may fail, But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.

Ecclesiastes 3:1

There is a time for everything and, and a season for every activity under the heavens.

Ecclesiastes 3:4

A time to weep and a time to laugh

Revelation 21:4

There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.

IRRITATION

Irritation is an interesting emotion because it can come from anywhere. The source could be for no good reason besides you getting up on the wrong side of the bed. Or it could be from those biological mood swings we discussed earlier. Lastly, it could be as deep as having a lack of patience or being victimized by another based on prior interactions—either way, the Lord wants to deal with our irritation. The irritation causes us to show disdain for people and a lack of patience, caused by stress or a byproduct of anger. 

Remember these scriptures when you feel yourself in this emotional space:

 James 1:19 

You know this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Now everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger;

Galatians 5:22

But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,

There is much more to unpack and scripture to aid us in developing emotional control. This study of the word taught me how much wisdom is available if we are willing to pursue it. God deems nothing too small to be focused on, including our emotions. Nor does he leave us ill-equipped for self-development. 

Remember, ladies, we are emotional beings but must have emotional control. Our well-being depends on it.

I hope this blesses you in reading as much as it blessed me in writing. God bless you.

P.S. Check out the previous blog post on Creating a Soft Life. I hope you enjoy it!